If clothes makes the man, words do even more so

“So we came up the hill and…well, we were sorta tired – you know what I mean – and so we sat down – you know – and before we could say howdy  we were outa food and, – you know- hungry.-  You know how it is…”

“Well, mate, at the end of the day it gets round to food.”
“Yeah, well, we’re on the same page with that one.  But having said that – What happened? “

Basically we thought the trip was less than great and going forward we’ll plan ahead.”


Take a look at this dialogue.  It’s typical of what you’ll hear today.  It’s full of slang, hackneyed and worn out phrases, lazy-selection and words that simply don’t need to be used at all.  If you want to be recognized as a good speaker you are advised to drop completely or change most of the phrases shown in italics.

“You know what I mean?”   If the listener did, there’d be no need to tell him.
“At the end of the day”    Try: finally, or the result, or consequently, or, the answer, to mention  just a few words you could use if you were really thinking about what you were saying.”

“We’re on the same page.”  We agree.  I concur.  We understand one another. 

“Having said that…”   It’s even worse than ‘but’ and takes three words instead of one.   Even ‘however’ is better than having said that.

“Basically, is a word that is overworked to the point of nausea by those who realize its being used when it isn’t necessary.   I once worked with a fellow who used the word ‘basically’ two and three times each time he opened his mouth.   It’s a ‘noise-word’ mostly.  Don’t use it unless what is being stated really is the base of something being used, predicated, or described.    Nintey-nine times out of a hundred it is used incorrectly.

‘Great’ grates because it is a word worked to death when there is a plethora of synonyms we can use such as big, massive, huge, gigantic, colossal, enormous…or outstanding, remarkable, significant et cetera.
“Going forward.”   Try:   Our plans.  In the future.   We predict.  Our expectations. 

Do you understand?   Do you comprehend?  By now you must have ‘got the picture’   Oh, my Goodness!  It’s seems we just can’t get away from this sort of thing.


About Tom Ware

I'm into speaking to audiences. My particular forte is telling stories. Morevover, I've addressed over 750 audiences and in excess of 40,000 people during the past eighteen years - excluding those I've addressed in my Toastmasters clubs. Additionally, I've presented classes to adults on Metaphysics and Spirituality (non sectarian) and Popular Psychology between 2001 and 2008. I'm an avid writer, been at it for forty-five years. Speaking is a passion, of course, as mentioned above. I started in 1972 with Toastmasters. My speciality is Storytelling and some years ago people began to flatter me with the titles: Prince of Storytellers, and Master Storyteller. Also, Tusitala Tom (Tusitala means Storyteller in Polynesian) I am also into 'serious' meditation (Vipassana as taught by S N Goenka) Started that in 1986. Additionally, I'm an Automatic Writing practioner and have been able to 'channel' for over forty years. Bit about me. Born in London UK and migrated to Australia in 1951. Started my first job day after my fifteenth birthday in that year. I've been a postal worker, sailor, aviation air-ground man, overseas telegraph operator. I've worked for an electrical power-supply company, been a truck driver, a foundry labourer, laboratory assistant, a police radio operator, and office worker - even an Antarctic expeditioner. Worked and lived in a number of countries, but am now 'retired' and enjoying life - probably as never before. I've been married - yes to the same woman! - for fifty-three years and have three grown up children and four grandchildren.
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